Cheated on wives and GF, why do you stay with the man?

I agree. And I have been there. My ex husband cheated on more times than I can count (and those are only the women I KNEW about). I gave myself the same lame excuses, and I become a shell of a person, yeah I said i was staying for our son, yeah I said no one else would want me, yeah I said it all, but at the end of the day he had no trouble sleeping and I was the one a mess. Point to my store is until you get the strength and courage to stand up for yourself, you will always be the victim. (Regardless what kind of mistreatment you are receiving) I agree with you that it isn't always "the other" girls fault, because some times they don't even know, and they are being played too. The person who should be held accountable rarely is, and that is sad. I can't say that I will speak to the women that my ex cheated on me with, but I can say that I have let it go, and it is only him who is yet to be forgiven.