Ladies, please help me. Nothing going on.?

It seems as though you've done more than your part in trying to get her in the mood. The help and the sweet notes and the vacations... all are fine but they are not working. A year ago? Three years in between? Ridiculous and totally unacceptable. Lay the law down and stick by it. Either she does something to get the libido going or you're filing for divorce. You have the right to be wanted and needed sexually and if she's not making you happy then you have to do what you need to do for yourself.. but you mustn't cheat. Give her the consequence of not trying to please you .. and stick to it. There are plenty of women out there that love sex and would love to have a husband such as yourself. You will heal from this relationship and soon look forward to a new one. Good luck ... I could not deal with that.